Getting Out of the Hole

Autobiography in 5 Short Chapters*: Chapter 1: I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost ... I am helpless. It isn't my fault. It takes me forever to find a way out. Chapter 2: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don't see it. I fall in again. I can't believe I am in the same place but it isn't my fault. It still takes a long time to get out. Chapter 3: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall in ... it's a habit. My eyes are open and I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately. Chapter 4: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it. Chapter 5: I walk down another street.

The hole represents those ideas and beliefs that keep us stuck and simply understanding them may not be enough to take us to Chapter 5. Growing up, I learned how to hide my feelings so I could navigate my parents' feelings; never showing or telling what I wanted or needed. I came to believe something was wrong with me and I couldn't be myself if I wanted to fit in or be loved. Looking back, I don't think I was ever completely myself. I am still working in Chapter 3 for my "mac daddy" false belief of "I'm not enough / I'm not good enough / there's something wrong with me." 

What about you? How are your early messages and beliefs about who you are still leading you to fall into the hole in the sidewalk? Are you afraid to ask for what you need or want? Are you afraid to appear needy? Or weak? Or assertive? Or arrogant? Are you afraid to sell yourself because you don't want to seem pushy? Do you push away good that is seeking you?  How easy is it for you to receive? Are you afraid to speak up, speak out, or speak your Truth? Have you settled for a life that didn't seem to be one of your choosing? Where do you make excuses in your life? What do you feel you don't deserve? Where and how have you given up? Where do you not let yourself be seen? Where are you holding back? How do your buttons get pushed? How does it make you feel when someone else gets what you want? Whose truth are you living?

There is something deep within calling me to step out and make my truth known. Is something deep calling you? Now is the time to be heard and seen!

* by Portia Nelson

Wisdom from Ernest Holmes

Unity does not mean uniformity. Life has set the stamp of individuality upon everything, from a blade of grass to a person. There is unity at the center, variety at the surface. These variations are separate and distinct without being separated or isolated. Variety feeds on the unity in which it is rooted and expands through a consciousness of being one with the whole.       

                   ~ Words That Heal Today

About Janet

Janet Kingsley, founder and spiritual leader of Center for Positive Living Sedona has been opening hearts and minds to infinite possibilities since 1998. Through articles, classes, and coaching she opens the heart, intrigues the mind, and feeds the spirit.

Janet is also a "Possibility Coach" who can see beyond your doubts and fears and ask the right questions so you can dive deep into your soul. She is also a master energy healer, utilizing her own special brand of intentional energy to help release each person's inner brilliance and wholeness. Focusing on helping people love their body, love themselves, and love their life, she is creating a movement and changing the world...one person at a time.

Find out more at www.janetkingsley.com

What Glasses Are You Wearing?

A man arrives in heaven and he is shown into God's office for judgment. One wall of the office is a picture window looking down on Earth. The Earth is beautiful with its blue waters, green forests, and white clouds. There is a pair of eyeglasses on the table. He says to himself, "Hmm, these must be God's glasses." He looked around and didn't see anyone so he put on God's glasses. He tries them on and looks at Earth again. Now he sees hunger, poverty, and sickness. There is so much inhumanity he can't bear it.

He hears a voice behind him. "Take off my glasses." He does so quickly and waits for his punishment.  After a pause a voice gently asked, "What did you see?" "I saw hate, corruption, and evil." God said, "Did you feel any love or compassion." "None," the man said. "I would destroy the whole planet without any hesitation or regret." God said. "That is why you can't use my glasses. You may not see what I see unless you feel what I feel."

We have opportunities each and every day to see
inhumanity, hunger, poverty, meanness, and resentment. We can see it in our lives, in the lives of the people we know and love, and on the news. But we have a choice to wear different glasses.
 

What resentments are we hanging onto? What regrets do we play over and over again? What secrets do we protect? What part of ourselves do we hide and not let anyone see? What sort of shame are we carrying around? What situations cause us to react and what pushes our buttons? In other words, what glasses are we wearing?

Are we wearing the glasses that allow us to see guilt and shame and resentment and envy and jealousy and righteous indignation and disrespect? If so, we need to take off those glasses and get one with a better prescription. And the best part? No need to make an appointment with the optometrist!

And the eye chart with the right glasses reads, "I am awesome!"

Wisdom from Ernest Holmes

Love is the principle of Life, for it is the nature of everything to give. Only the one who loves so much that there is no longer any room for hate will ever arrive at the place where, if there may be hate, he will never know it. We are afraid of greatness because we are so tied down to littleness. We clutch the littleness anxiously and jealously, but so precariously, to our hearts. It is essential to see beyond the littleness to something bigger. None of us is as perfect in expression as we ought to be. So the challenge to each of us is to be great enough to rise in love, in charity, through understanding and compassion. Love is the lodestone of life.          ~ 365 Science of Mind

About Janet

Janet Kingsley, founder and spiritual leader of Center for Positive Living Sedona has been opening hearts and minds to infinite possibilities since 1998. Through articles, classes, and coaching she opens the heart, intrigues the mind, and feeds the spirit.

Janet is also a "Possibility Coach" and master energy healer. Focusing on helping people love their body, love themselves, and love their life, she is creating a movement and changing the world...one person at a time.

Find out more at www.janetkingsley.com

Step Into Circulation

Too often we are willing to settle. We make excuses as to why we don't need more, why we don't need better, why we don't need to live in our zone of brilliance, or why we don't need to sparkle. Our excuses sound reasonable and we continue to live in our comfort zone.

When our minds can't see a way through a problem, it is tempted not to act even on what we can see because we can't do all we desire to do. So we delay in doing anything at all. We never even take the first step. And if we don't take the first step, nothing will change for us. We need to circulate and find some way to keep yourself in circulation.

Here are some guidelines to give you a power boost and help you jumpstart the Law of Circulation in your life:

 

Giving:

• Attach no strings to your gifts. If strings are there, it isn't a gift at all. Give something freely.
• Give joyfully. Even if you are paying a bill, do so with joy. Giving with a grudge doesn't bless the giver or the receivier.

Receiving:

• Be open to receiving. You must not rob the giver in their joy in giving.
• Prepare yourself to receive by being receptive and appreciative.
• Be grateful for the little things to prepare for the big things.
• Be open to new people who bring you new ideas. Stay away from the phrase, "I already know that."

What if this simple idea, when put into action, is the key to busting loose from struggling and settling and beginning your life of possibilities? Isn't it worth a try?