Feeling our Feelings

Have you ever felt flawed, cracked, damaged, and no good to anyone? Have you ever been consumed by thoughts of hopelessness and despair? While it may be true that we are never separated from God's love, during these times, we don't see it nor do we feel it. What's the answer? Do we wallow? Do we slap on a 'happy face' and pretend everything is okay? Do we eat or drink or sleep or zone out in some other way?

At times like these, New Thought platitudes are not very comforting. Well-meaning friends that question our consciousness or tell us to "fake it 'til we make it" or remind us that we created the situation in the first place generally fail to inspire, soothe, or help. We are generally not supported in feeling our negative feelings, so when they come up, we have to hide them or pretend they don't exist. 

Maybe a first step would be to give ourselves permission to feel our feelings - all of them! And we can be fully present in the feelings without having to play out worst-case scenarios in our minds - just be present in our feelings. And a second step could be to reach out to someone (like a minister or a practitioner) who can know the Truth for you without making your feelings wrong. 

When we are experiencing spiritual pain, our philosophy should help us and not hinder us. We shouldn't let the idea of having to appear to be 'perfect' stop us from reaching out and reaching up for support.

I wonder who could use your own special brand of compassion and understanding.

Wisdom from Ernest Holmes
This light is never obliterated, but it does seem that it is often obscured by various reasons.  ~ Light

About Janet

Janet Kingsley, founder and spiritual leader of Center for Positive Living Sedona has been opening hearts and minds to infinite possibilities since 1998. Through articles, classes, and coaching she opens the heart, intrigues the mind, and feeds the spirit.

Janet is also a "Possibility Coach" who can see beyond your doubts and fears and ask the right questions so you can dive deep into your soul. She is also a master energy healer. Focusing on helping people love their body, love themselves, and love their life, she is creating a movement and changing the world...one person at a time.

Find out more at www.janetkingsley.com

The Quest to Feel Good

New Thought has been called the 'feel good' religion. We talk a lot about moving through life with 'grace and ease.' We want to manifest our dreams and desires 'easily and effortlessly.' We look for signs. We ask our guides. We are told if something 'feels good' than it is probably a 'yes' and if it doesn't feel good it is probably a 'no.' And so our life becomes about doing what 'feels good.'
I think we need to move beyond that mindset. 

If we want to create something new in our life, we may have to be dedicated and disciplined to think new thoughts and create new patterns of behavior. These new thoughts and new behaviors may bring us to the very edge of our comfort zone and take us on a path of the unknown which will very likely not feel good. In fact, 'feeling good' may help us cover up those ideas that will lead to growth and transformation.

So, doing what makes us feel good may not be the answer. Relying on the Divine instead of relying on what we can see doesn't always feel good; in fact, it feels scary. I gave very personal talks all month at CPL Sedona and it didn't really feel good; it felt self-centered, egotistical, and vulnerable. Taking that step into the limelight or having the courage to disagree yet speak our truth is very uncomfortable and doesn't feel good. 

So, if you buy into the idea that you only want to do things that make you feel good, you'll likely never grow, never dream, and never get to experience what it might look like to actually open your heart and mind to your infinite possibilities.

Wisdom from Ernest Holmes

Developing confidence in ourselves, in our ability to meet and handle all undesirable situations, requires that we must have confidence in that Something which is greater than we are. Then we will have spiritual self-reliance. 

When this is done the lesser must always submit to the greater. Weakness will give way to strength, despair will turn to hope, hate will become love, failure will become success, and sickness will dissolve into health. 

The action that takes place is not one of despotic or overruling harshness, but one that moves in harmony, love, beauty, warmth, and order, quietly transforming all that is unlike it.

      

            ~The Spiritual Universe and You

About Janet

Janet Kingsley, founder and spiritual leader of Center for Positive Living Sedona has been opening hearts and minds to infinite possibilities since 1998. Through articles, classes, and coaching she opens the heart, intrigues the mind, and feeds the spirit.

 

Janet is also a "Possibility Coach" who can see beyond your doubts and fears and ask the right questions so you can dive deep into your soul. She is also a master energy healer. Focusing on helping people love their body, love themselves, and love their life, she is creating a movement and changing the world...one person at a time.

 

Find out more at www.janetkingsley.com